Parents.
The preponderance of health conditions in the low-income parents cannot
be overlooked. Some of them suffer from physical ailments. Michelle complains
about limitations from her heart condition and Andrea was forced to discontinue
her volunteer work at the school due to problems managing her diabetic
condition.
In the present study, many of the parents disclose having psychological
problems; these presumably interfere with their ability to find or keep
a job as well
as their general parenting. One participant who had grown up in a home
with a strict alcoholic father had been in treatment herself for an alcohol
addiction.
She indicates that in their adult years, she and all five of her siblings
have had problems with alcohol addiction. She claims:
I wasn't a drinker, I use to drink socially, never, never drink in front
of my kids until I met my ex… and he was an alcoholic. And it was either
like join him or leave him or join him, something like that, I don't know
the saying but anyways, more or less I joined him and I shouldn't have. But
I never drank like you know until he started drinking and then I started…
At the time of the study, this mother was involved in a treatment program.
Her ability to work and play with her children varied, "Sometimes I do [work
or play] sometimes I don't, just depends on my mood I guess." She reveals
that she had been working on her own to overcome her alcohol addiction and
had left the alcohol successfully for six months, but circumstances in her
life created so much stress for her that she turned back to the alcohol as
a way to try to help her cope with the reality of her world, "I started getting
well. But when I found out about [my youngest daughter] being uh -uh- being
uh really uh - not advanced, but devanced or whatever like she's not comprehending
and just a whole lot of problems piled up, so I kind of like slipped." She
goes on to say, "My middle child, she goes to Mental Health…it's
just counseling…She
was sexually molested…I just found out, but I knew, I knew…She
blurted it out at school and uh…I had an idea anyways." She said that
her sister had been molested by the same family relative and when he died,
her sister "never
knew until he died, then she started having flashbacks." |