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Natalie describes a difficult life growing up in a large family with a mother
who was not well and did not have time to spend with her children. "We had
it hard. My mother had five of us. My mother was quite sick all her life.
It was very difficult. She had cancer. She had open heart surgery. She had
migraines. She was 42 when she passed away." At 16 years of age, Natalie
severed all ties with her family, with the exception of her younger sister
who has special needs. Natalie held various low-skill jobs including chambermaid,
waitress, cook, and sales positions before she was married. After she got
married, her husband brought in a steady income and she did not have any
financial worries. Fear of poverty, however, kept Natalie trapped in a violent
situation. She says she had never planned to be living in a low-income situation,
but she knew that leaving her husband and getting out of her marriage was
the right thing to do for her and her sons even if it meant going on public
assistance.
Natalie understands that leaving her husband precipitated her situation,
but she considers it to be temporary. She takes her own initiative to try
to get out of poverty and to give her sons "what all children deserve." Her
life resolves around her two sons: "I try to give them …what they
need and then some because I didn't have it growing up." Natalie plays a
strong role in encouraging her younger son: "You don't know how to read?
Oh yes you do! You're learning to read. Oh yeah. It takes time. Remember
what I said practise and practise and practise and it gets better every time
you
practise."
Similar to Natalie, Michelle also recalls limited involvement of her parents
in activities to prepare her for school, "Uh I didn't know much in grade
1. I didn't know my numbers, my letters, nothing. Uh my mother didn't teach
me." She admits that she does not know what to do with her own children since
she has no role model from her childhood. Michelle explains, "That's
why I found it difficult, when my kids were in school. When I started doing
homework
with him, it was hell! I yelled!" Dedicated to her family, Michelle indicates
that her prime motivation for going back to school is a recognition that
she does not have the skills to work with her children and she "need[ed]
something because [she] just wouldn't have been able to handle it." Now,
after having completed some parenting courses and academic upgrading, she
believes it is much easier working with them; she feels she has acquired
some of the
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