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A Guide to Survivor's Language

Blocking out

Blocking out is a coping skill that prevents a woman from gaining full or partial memory of traumatic experience. A woman may have blocked out (or can't remember) large parts of her life.


Body Memory

This is re-experienced body sensation and/or pain originally associated with the trauma. The body will always remember what was done to it.


Boundaries

Because her private space was violated, a survivor has to learn that she does have the right to establish boundaries about where and when people can touch her.


Denial

A survivor may resist accepting the reality of the traumatic event; it feel safer to not believe. Denial is a way to cope with memories. ("There's no way this could have happened to me. I must be crazy.")


Flashback

A flashback is an intrusive recalling of a traumatic event(s). It can be experienced by visualizing the event or moment and feeling numb or detached. An event can be re-experienced emotionally, with or without memory of the event. Flashbacks can include "body memories."


Healing

To heal, a survivor must re-live the feelings and pain she was unable to feel at the time of abuse. Healing can be long and highly traumatic as a woman attempts to integrate the fragmented parts of herself. "You can't heal what you can't feel."


Multiple

This is a person who has survived and coped by developing , multiple personalities (MPD). It is a form, or level, of dissociation. Some women may notice severe and rapid mood swings, loss of time, changes with vision, headaches and other symptoms, although those these symptoms alone do not define MPD.


Numbed Out

This means a person is unable to feel anything.


Panic Attack

A panic attack is feeling out of control; a woman may feel like she may faint or die. She learns how to breath deeply and work her way through an attack.



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