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After they talked for a while Karen said she would feel all
right about not publishing her story as part of the research documentation.
Instead, Betty-Ann would work with her journals which would become the account
of what happened with Karen and with the Women's Upgrading Program because of
the research. Joy and Karen also decided to write something that Betty-Ann
would edit and add to the end of the Arctic College program description.
During that call, Karen talked about how she wrote the story as
a way of capturing her feelings during the research. She intended it to be
fiction, but Joy clearly felt that many people could be identified. Joy later
wrote,
I felt like pretending the story didn't exist and that I didn't
know anything about it. I tried to ignore it, but sleep wouldn't come. I had to
talk with Karen about my concerns and that was one of the hardest things I ever
had to do, mostly because I felt guilty for not being sensitive to other
people's feelings. If I hadn't talked with Karen, I would never have forgiven
myself for not trying my best to prevent something that would sever my
friendship with her and others.
Karen said her first reaction to hearing Joy's concerns was "too
bad" - it took her right back to many of the difficult feelings she had
experienced over the year. Nevertheless, she decided to listen and, in the
process, discovered she could tie-up some unfinished ends in the story.
Karen was able to tell Joy things she could not discuss during
the time they were happening - particularly her feelings of isolation from her
community, her co-workers, and her friends. She explained that it wasn't that
she chose not to talk about it. She just didn't have the words to talk about
something that she was in the middle of sorting out for herself. She talked
about how she felt when some of her discoveries about herself completely
changed the way she fit into her community. Karen later wrote,
This change had been so huge, so deep, that it gave me the
courage to leave Arviat and make major changes in my life. These were not easy
changes, but very scary, sad, difficult, exhilarating, and power-filled.
Joy also talked about how she had been in the midst of change at
the time of the research. Since receiving the story, she has spent time
reflecting on how she might have prevented Karen's feelings of isolation. Joy
wrote,
I realize now that what we have since discussed couldn't have
taken place at the time because we were both in the middle of making changes in
our lives. My change was job-oriented rather than personal, but it was
something new to me so I, too, didn't know exactly what I was doing, or was
supposed to do. I realize now that I should never allow work to come between
people who care for one another.
Karen felt both surprised and not surprised that they were each
able to talk about such a difficult time in their lives even though they are in
some ways on the opposite sides of the experience.
It's like we are both standing there saying, "Yes, the way you
see it is the way I see it. And this is the way I have to deal with it." Is the
"it" our own safety? More than that, we're talking about what makes each of us,
and how we make our place and our way in the world.
What was produced
Karen's edited journal- Charting the woman-positive ripples: A
journal of discovery - is included in Women in literacy speak.
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