by Judith Kelsey

This book gives information to women who are in abusive relationships. It will help women who need or want to know what to do to get some support or get out. The guide was written for Newfoundland and Labrador women and the resources and phone numbers are for agencies in that province. However, women in other provinces will find the book full of thoughtful, sensitive advice.

The book is clearly divided into 3 sections. The first one describes the problem of violence against women and children. The second one outlines the steps that women may take to deal with their feelings, their children and their basic needs such as shelter and employment. This includes information about dealing with the police and with emergency situations. The third section is the directory of resources. It is very complete and provides a guide for women in other provinces who may want to make a list of what is available for them.

Here is an example of some of the writing:

"When a woman is beaten, the first thing many people say is 'she must have done something to make him beat her'. No matter what she does, a woman does not ask to be beaten and she does not deserve to be beaten. It is wrong to blame the victim. If you are an abused woman, try not to blame yourself - it is not your fault." (page 14)

Women may use this book as a reference guide, reading and re-reading the sections that apply to their lives. It also provides an excellent base for a group discussion about how to deal with violence and abuse.

A review by Meredith Hutchings, Halifax, N.S.