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Here are some of the short-
and long-term effects of violence that many women have identified. If you are a
survivor of violence or are currently living with violence, you may experience
some or all of these effects:
Inability to
concentrate: difficulty listening, distraction, preoccupation. Sense
of detachment: spacing out, feeling numb, not being aware of what is going
on around you. Difficulty in beginning new things or taking risks:
Women who have experienced violence may well lack experience as risk-takers or
learners. For good reason, you may fear being punished, humiliated or rejected
for making mistakes. Tiredness: Violence may prevent you from
sleeping if you are attacked within your home, if you have nightmares or if you
are trying to stay awake to protect yourself. Some abusers interrupt women's
sleep as part of their pattern of control. Even if a woman gets enough sleep,
fatigue may set in sooner for those who have experienced violence. Women with
good learning experiences find that learning new things is invigorating and
energizing; survivors may find learning draining and tiring even if they are
doing well. Panic attacks and flashbacks: As a survivor, you may
experience panic attacks which are characterized by faintness, dizziness,
shaking or feeling out of control. You may also experience flashbacks to the
violence itself or the feelings that the violence caused. Both these reactions
can occur at any time and therefore can be extremely disruptive to your
learning. Negative self-image: Part of the way that some abusers
control their victims is by telling them that they are worthless or stupid.
Often women come to believe this about themselves. Girls who witness their
mothers being abused are getting a message about their own value as a woman. To
learn, you need a belief in your own potential and ability. This is undermined
by violence. Concern for safety: You may be concerned about safety
in your learning place, while you are traveling back and forth, or while you
are at home. This may distract or prevent you from learning. Inability
to trust: You may find that you have difficulty trusting people who remind
you of your abuser(s). Because of this, you may find it hard to learn with or
from these people. Health problems: Survivors of abuse are more
likely to suffer depression or other common mental health problems than people
who have not been abused. Physical, sexual and psychological abuse can all
affect your physical health as well.
If you do not experience all
of these effects it does not mean your experience was not violent or hurtful or
that it is not affecting your life. Sometimes women bury themselves in work as
a form of escape; learning can feel like one of the only positive parts of
their lives. Any of the listed effects, however, could make it hard for you to
learn.
Often women experience
several of these effects at once. Many times learners who are struggling with
the effects of abuse are labeled "slow" or "lazy." This can cause you to stop
believing in your own ability to learn. It is important for everybody to
recognize violence as a potential source of learning difficulties so that when
a woman or girl is experiencing violence she can get help, instead of getting
blamed. |