As a parent, you can help your child by telling them:

• they are loved and wanted
• they are not alone and other children have to cope with similar experiences
• there are safe places for women to go with their children if parents separate
• it's okay to feel angry towards parents and still love them
• they are not responsible and it is not their fault that parents fight,
• they are not responsible and it is not their fault when a parent gets hurt
• they are not responsible and it is not their fault when parents are going to live apart.
• it's okay to tell and talk about their feelings and what is happening. They do not have to keep secrets that could be hurtful to people
• it's normal to feel angry/sad/frustrated when things are unhappy at home and everyone feels "mixed up" when they don't know how people are going to act
• it's not okay to hit or hurt people with words — that will not make you a happy/strong person
• no one deserves to be hurt and no one has the right to hurt someone