Hence, they are confined to this neighbourhood and, with the emphasis on
order and control of these families' lives by the external agents, some of
the parents seek a mechanical order and control when helping their children
with homework, particularly reading. A common thread weaving through the
discourses of invasion therefore suggests that the women may be trying to
ensure that their children conform to strict school standards in order to
deal with high levels of uncertainty in their lives. In this way, they may
be able to control at least one aspect of their lives and help their children
to aspire to a better life for themselves (Darville, 2004).
Discourses of Time
Throughout the discourses of the low–income participants, it is apparent
that these parents live their lives in the present, strictly for today
and were for the most part unable to make long term plans, let alone think
about
what tomorrow might bring. At times it seemed that they engaged in activities
that would help them to forget about tomorrow and the meanness and sometimes
meaninglessness of their lives.
Many of the women's discourses hinted at lives filled with despair, humiliation,
deprivation and exploitation. Some of the women, like Andrea and Jill,
continued to live with abusive partners for they lacked the skills or the
resources to
make it on their own so they endured the hardships of a restrictive lifestyle,
always dreaming that things might improve. With limited educational and
financial resources, these women did not have access to programs or training
that would
give them the skills to take charge of their lives and move on.
Discourses of time become part of the habitus for the parents as well as their children.
Most of the parents in the study do not have the training or the skills
to mentor their children towards setting goals and working towards them.
Instead,
they look for immediate and tangible rewards and do not understand delayed
gratification. Thus, when the children enrol in school, their way of dealing
with a concern is to address it immediately.
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